I do a lot of yoga. My practice keeps me physically fit, and helps me clear my head. Often times there are great nuggets of wisdom shared by the teacher during shavasana (basically laying still with the only goal to relax). This afternoon in class our teacher, Mardy, shared this:
“Yoga is finding the right balance of patience and determination.” – Mardy Chen
I think this applies directly to leadership – and life!
Too much or not enough of either one can be problematic. Some days you may be lacking energy or struggling with difficult challenges. In those times, it is important to be patient with yourself or others and not push too hard. Other days when you are feeling strong and energized, you will be able to drum up a little extra determination and push to a new edge. Not enough patience and you may hurt yourself, but too much you won’t be moving forward. Too much determination could lead to injuries or exhaustion, but not enough can hold you back. The key is knowing yourself and what each situation calls for.
Balance is not bringing equal amounts of each quality, it is figuring out what is needed at the time to create the best outcome. Where are you at today? What do you need more of?
There are plenty of critics out there – but do you have critical friends??
Love this graphic by Bill Ferriter @plugusin
There were so many great nuggets of learning in the latest #IMMOOC episode with two awesome Texas principals, Amber Teamann and Matt Arend! One part of the conversation that really hit home was talking about the importance of critical friends. These people are so important to have in your life to call you out when you may need a push, or to offer support when things get difficult.
I’ve been lucky enough to work in some schools and systems that truly value relationships and what a difference it makes. One of our admin book studies years ago was Vital Friends by Tom Rath. I’ve always seen the value in connecting with others and this bit of research strengthened the notion that it is not only valuable, but critical to success.
People who have a “best friend at work” are seven times as likely to be engaged in their job. – Tom Rath research findings in Vital Friends
7 times more engaged!!
Who are your critical/vital friends? Let them know, check in with them for feedback on a regular basis. Share your goals and worries, or reach out to say hello. Do not carry the load alone, we are all in this together. Education is one of the most stressful yet rewarding careers out there and people are our business. Find your people whether it is in your building, district or great online groups like #IMMOOC, doesn’t matter, just find them. The only way to build quality relationships with people is to invest time doing it. You do not want to wait until you may need that critical friend to find one.
To my people…you know who you are, and thank you!!